A culmination of recent events has made me rethink a lot of things about my faith. I had a few friends take huge steps in their faith walks recently, and that always inspires the sharing of testimony in social gatherings, even from those who have taken less recent, though equally significant steps.
Over one such gathering, everyone involved shared their experiences with disillusionment through the raw exposure to accurate world view. That is, they were able to solidify their recognition of their identity in Christ. Curious, I dwelt on it for several days. I know that my own identity in Christ is not entirely what I think it is. My perception, even after all of my trials and lessons, is still warped and tainted by what I'm now told are lies.
The vexing part about this is that I know, intellectually, that I'm deceived. I have the knowledge of who I am in Christ; that I'm eternally loved by God, that my sins are forgiven; ultimately that I'm saved. Yet even now, that reality has never fully sunken in. There's always been something in the way, preventing the peace and joy of Christ from truly taking root.
I asked some of the aforementioned friends about this today. Specifically, I voiced my desire to talk to them, perhaps even somewhat regularly, about actually realizing the identity of which I'm currently merely aware. The way it was broken down for me was simple: to have childlike faith; that is, to believe by enforcement what I already know to be biblically true. To completely disregard the lies and not allow them in, because I can be shielded by the truth. All it takes is taking God at His word.
This will, of course, require much diligence. It's going to be a process of rewiring my heart and mind against a lifetime of allowing creeping doubts and lies into my perspective. Such is the nature of rocky soil. My prayer is for God to till that soil and remove the rocks, so that I can fully step into the life that He has redeemed for me.
Monday, March 14, 2016
Saturday, March 12, 2016
Healing Now
Moving forward after something painful is difficult. This I've always known. But I'm only now beginning to realize just how difficult it can be when I have any real say in the painful scenario's outcome.
Several days ago, I terminated a friendship with one of my best friends, because I suddenly realized how toxic it had become. This action flew in the face of nearly everything I'd stood for previously, even though the decision was on my doorstep for a long time. I fought it and then found justifications for fighting it, all the while ignoring external advice and inner goading, reading both as graceless and flawed.
Since my decision, I've been in a state of freefall. I immediately fell to my knees and asked God what I'd just done. Over the following few days, I began questioning the things I'd believed about myself. This would surely be a true test of faith; a trial by which my path would be chosen for years to come.
Having now put myself into a state of life crisis, nearly every moment has been a struggle. Work has kept me busy, but I've noticed the tension builds up quickly there, making me more prone to short temper. Idle pastimes have occupied my mind at home, which is somewhat more effective, until I'm done, at which point I realize I'm exactly where I left off and I've wasted several hours. It's only been a couple of occasions that I've done healthy, sabbatical, social activities, which have been the beginnings of healing.
As I think back on which of my actions have promoted health and reflected maturity, it's clear that the opposing actions have been directly rebellious against God. And it's only putting it in that light that reveals how silly such actions are. What am I doing? "Disciplining" Him? I'm a child punishing his parent for putting him in time out.
The destructive cycle in which I've been locked needs to stop. Tuning out the pain is completely nonproductive; it's effectively only a bandage for an infected wound. Without godly counsel, genuine friendship, and perhaps ministry, I won't heal properly. I've been on a path I've taken too many times in the past, thus further perpetuating my stunted growth.
Several days ago, I terminated a friendship with one of my best friends, because I suddenly realized how toxic it had become. This action flew in the face of nearly everything I'd stood for previously, even though the decision was on my doorstep for a long time. I fought it and then found justifications for fighting it, all the while ignoring external advice and inner goading, reading both as graceless and flawed.
Since my decision, I've been in a state of freefall. I immediately fell to my knees and asked God what I'd just done. Over the following few days, I began questioning the things I'd believed about myself. This would surely be a true test of faith; a trial by which my path would be chosen for years to come.
Having now put myself into a state of life crisis, nearly every moment has been a struggle. Work has kept me busy, but I've noticed the tension builds up quickly there, making me more prone to short temper. Idle pastimes have occupied my mind at home, which is somewhat more effective, until I'm done, at which point I realize I'm exactly where I left off and I've wasted several hours. It's only been a couple of occasions that I've done healthy, sabbatical, social activities, which have been the beginnings of healing.
As I think back on which of my actions have promoted health and reflected maturity, it's clear that the opposing actions have been directly rebellious against God. And it's only putting it in that light that reveals how silly such actions are. What am I doing? "Disciplining" Him? I'm a child punishing his parent for putting him in time out.
The destructive cycle in which I've been locked needs to stop. Tuning out the pain is completely nonproductive; it's effectively only a bandage for an infected wound. Without godly counsel, genuine friendship, and perhaps ministry, I won't heal properly. I've been on a path I've taken too many times in the past, thus further perpetuating my stunted growth.
Friday, March 4, 2016
Pareidolia
To anyone who follows this blog or knows me at any depth, there are probably certain things about me that indicate less than a wholehearted reckless abandon for Christ. It's characteristic of the walk I've had. I believe, I accept, and I profess, but when it comes to actually living my faith, I seem to always come up short.
It's not necessarily through my actions or inactions that this is made apparent, so much as the underlying attitude that I have. It's one that I've maintained, even though my moods have been generally better and still improving in recent months. There's something in my attitudes that's intangible, almost like an aura, that suggests that something is amiss; perhaps even that I'm still putting on a show.
I can't confirm this firsthand, but that seems like a fairly normal thing for someone who has claimed to start following Christ, but hasn't really had to change anything about his lifestyle. To make a turnaround like my life has needed, something must be placed before God as a sacrifice. That something is necessarily the thing (or things) I worshiped prior to my acceptance of Christ as Lord. Because no one can serve two masters.
Until recently, I'd assumed I'd done that. Recalling the story of the Rich Young Ruler, Jesus told him to sell all of his possessions and give the proceeds to the poor. Until he did that, he would not know salvation.
I knew all along that God was not telling me to do exactly that. But I think somewhere in my mind I'd convinced myself that going to church, studying my Bible, doing daily devotionals, getting connected to church groups, and trying to live an outwardly more godly life, were the things that God was commanding me to do. And that was an easy commitment to make. And while I still did other things (work, school, video games, TV, etc.), those things didn't rule my life and dominate my every thought. Furthermore, I'd assumed that I was doing those things worshipfully, which is also what God wants (more precisely, for everything to be done that way).
What I've come to realize is that the possessions, daily tasks, and other mundane things were not what made me a "rich young ruler." They occupied my time out of necessity, but I never truly bowed my life to them. That is to say, I knew they weren't idols to me, and I knew what it was I truly worshiped, but I only recently realized that I'd never given that false god up for Christ.
It saddens me that it takes the forcing of God's hand to finally, physically remove the icons from my life; that I lacked the strength and wisdom to banish them myself. On that note, however, I'm glad He's done it. Now I know the confusion can stop, and with it, so will this spiritual oppression and unrest.
It's not necessarily through my actions or inactions that this is made apparent, so much as the underlying attitude that I have. It's one that I've maintained, even though my moods have been generally better and still improving in recent months. There's something in my attitudes that's intangible, almost like an aura, that suggests that something is amiss; perhaps even that I'm still putting on a show.
I can't confirm this firsthand, but that seems like a fairly normal thing for someone who has claimed to start following Christ, but hasn't really had to change anything about his lifestyle. To make a turnaround like my life has needed, something must be placed before God as a sacrifice. That something is necessarily the thing (or things) I worshiped prior to my acceptance of Christ as Lord. Because no one can serve two masters.
Until recently, I'd assumed I'd done that. Recalling the story of the Rich Young Ruler, Jesus told him to sell all of his possessions and give the proceeds to the poor. Until he did that, he would not know salvation.
I knew all along that God was not telling me to do exactly that. But I think somewhere in my mind I'd convinced myself that going to church, studying my Bible, doing daily devotionals, getting connected to church groups, and trying to live an outwardly more godly life, were the things that God was commanding me to do. And that was an easy commitment to make. And while I still did other things (work, school, video games, TV, etc.), those things didn't rule my life and dominate my every thought. Furthermore, I'd assumed that I was doing those things worshipfully, which is also what God wants (more precisely, for everything to be done that way).
What I've come to realize is that the possessions, daily tasks, and other mundane things were not what made me a "rich young ruler." They occupied my time out of necessity, but I never truly bowed my life to them. That is to say, I knew they weren't idols to me, and I knew what it was I truly worshiped, but I only recently realized that I'd never given that false god up for Christ.
It saddens me that it takes the forcing of God's hand to finally, physically remove the icons from my life; that I lacked the strength and wisdom to banish them myself. On that note, however, I'm glad He's done it. Now I know the confusion can stop, and with it, so will this spiritual oppression and unrest.
Saturday, February 20, 2016
The Serpent's Kiss
I've been in a bit of a stagnation point in my faith lately. I think it's largely because I've been so busy with day to day tasks and pastimes that I haven't given myself adequate time to spend with God.
Regardless the cause, I've definitely felt the effects of it. Backsliding into some of my old habits, physical, verbal, and mental, has been an inevitability. And of course, not giving myself enough chance to think it through has only worsened the condition. Now, as I assess my life as it is, I'm bothered to see the degradation.
Ultimately, it was the very fact that I'm bothered, and the way that that perturbance culminated, that led me back into a state of questioning. Not questions of belief or anything - I'm not going through another crisis. More like questions about how sin is defined. Generally, "Is it actually sinful to do this and that?" is a pretty accurate template for my inquiries.
Frighteningly enough, that phrasing, from my own mind, reminded me of an infamous exchange between a woman and a serpent. Realizing this, I was faced with the reality of how much danger I was in. So, per my nature, I did a bit of research.
Just a heads up: this isn't a new revelation. In fact, I'm pretty sure I've written about it before.
Among the first of my perspectives that needed to change when I began following Christ was my take on what's considered "sinful." The key, I realized even then, was that it's not about which behaviors and mentalities are sinful, so much as which ones glorify God.
We have to approach the issue from the positive perspective: giving ourselves a legitimate reason to live in a certain way, rather than reasons to not live in another. This course keeps us safely out of the risk of falling into sin. With eyes fixed on God, we need not even consider whether or not something is offensive to Him, because we're already preoccupied with living in such a way that glorifies Him. The sinful ways can't even find their way in.
Regardless the cause, I've definitely felt the effects of it. Backsliding into some of my old habits, physical, verbal, and mental, has been an inevitability. And of course, not giving myself enough chance to think it through has only worsened the condition. Now, as I assess my life as it is, I'm bothered to see the degradation.
Ultimately, it was the very fact that I'm bothered, and the way that that perturbance culminated, that led me back into a state of questioning. Not questions of belief or anything - I'm not going through another crisis. More like questions about how sin is defined. Generally, "Is it actually sinful to do this and that?" is a pretty accurate template for my inquiries.
Frighteningly enough, that phrasing, from my own mind, reminded me of an infamous exchange between a woman and a serpent. Realizing this, I was faced with the reality of how much danger I was in. So, per my nature, I did a bit of research.
Just a heads up: this isn't a new revelation. In fact, I'm pretty sure I've written about it before.
Among the first of my perspectives that needed to change when I began following Christ was my take on what's considered "sinful." The key, I realized even then, was that it's not about which behaviors and mentalities are sinful, so much as which ones glorify God.
We have to approach the issue from the positive perspective: giving ourselves a legitimate reason to live in a certain way, rather than reasons to not live in another. This course keeps us safely out of the risk of falling into sin. With eyes fixed on God, we need not even consider whether or not something is offensive to Him, because we're already preoccupied with living in such a way that glorifies Him. The sinful ways can't even find their way in.
Saturday, January 23, 2016
Vocari Dei
One thing in my life that I think has been thriving in its own awkward way is prayer. I say awkward because it's a daily, clumsy struggle, but thriving because I've noticeably grown.
I've learned over the years that even though talking with people about what's troubling me can be therapeutic and at times directly helpful, there's only so much communication that can be done with our limited understanding. We can't make sense of ourselves half the time, so we can hardly expect others to do so. What's more, people aren't without their limits of patience. They'll eventually become frustrated, especially toward a person who's inconsolable or beyond their ability to help.
In contrast, God is always there, always listening, and never impatient. Most profoundly, He does understand us and our entire situation, even when we don't. That's been reassuring in ways that only a few months ago I wouldn't have even imagined. The option to turn to God when I just want to be understood by someone is comforting. Even if, when I'm on my knees, all I can do is be silent, sob unreservedly, or just tell God that I'm hurt, confused, and even mad at Him.
My latest reflections on prayer have led me to a conclusion about its sheer importance. And it's not about getting the answers that we want for our requests. While that happens sometimes, I feel like a lot of people miss the point entirely and see petitioning as a way to get wishes granted. In truth, our prayer should be focused entirely on open acknowledgment of how utterly we must rely on God. This form of complete surrender should be our humble approach behind all of the times that we turn to Him for anything.
I've learned over the years that even though talking with people about what's troubling me can be therapeutic and at times directly helpful, there's only so much communication that can be done with our limited understanding. We can't make sense of ourselves half the time, so we can hardly expect others to do so. What's more, people aren't without their limits of patience. They'll eventually become frustrated, especially toward a person who's inconsolable or beyond their ability to help.
In contrast, God is always there, always listening, and never impatient. Most profoundly, He does understand us and our entire situation, even when we don't. That's been reassuring in ways that only a few months ago I wouldn't have even imagined. The option to turn to God when I just want to be understood by someone is comforting. Even if, when I'm on my knees, all I can do is be silent, sob unreservedly, or just tell God that I'm hurt, confused, and even mad at Him.
My latest reflections on prayer have led me to a conclusion about its sheer importance. And it's not about getting the answers that we want for our requests. While that happens sometimes, I feel like a lot of people miss the point entirely and see petitioning as a way to get wishes granted. In truth, our prayer should be focused entirely on open acknowledgment of how utterly we must rely on God. This form of complete surrender should be our humble approach behind all of the times that we turn to Him for anything.
Tuesday, January 19, 2016
Drowning in the Flood
I made a mess again.
My depression has dragged me down to what feels like rock bottom. I know it isn't, but perspective tends to dominate the human mind. It's times like this, when I feel the sheer weight of everything, that I feel, not so much that I can't continue, but that I have no will to do so. It's like I've allowed my circumstances to bear down on me so hard that my spirits have been crushed and I've degenerated into apathy.
My thoughts have been immersed in negativity for several days. I've felt lonely and abandoned, and these feelings seem to feed and sustain themselves, causing a downward spiral. I've felt so much anger and resentment, so much fear, and so much loathing for myself and for the world and all the people in it, that it feels like I'm beyond consolation. I've backslidden so far into old, sinful behaviors and attitudes that redemption feels hopeless.
The burden has been so heavy that, moments ago, I felt compelled to fall to my knees. I reread, for the umpteenth time, the description of love in 1 Corinthians 13, and it became painfully real to me that the way I've been has not been loving at all. I begged God for the forgiveness I knew I already have and will never deserve. But can I forgive myself?
As I write, I still wrestle with this, yet to find a peaceful resolution. To any readers, I'm sorry that this isn't a profound, feelgood, theological or spiritual post. This is a post of despair; of open recognition of my need for God's grace; of a deep longing to truly give my burdens to Christ. These are the thoughts of a human truly struggling with his humanity.
My depression has dragged me down to what feels like rock bottom. I know it isn't, but perspective tends to dominate the human mind. It's times like this, when I feel the sheer weight of everything, that I feel, not so much that I can't continue, but that I have no will to do so. It's like I've allowed my circumstances to bear down on me so hard that my spirits have been crushed and I've degenerated into apathy.
My thoughts have been immersed in negativity for several days. I've felt lonely and abandoned, and these feelings seem to feed and sustain themselves, causing a downward spiral. I've felt so much anger and resentment, so much fear, and so much loathing for myself and for the world and all the people in it, that it feels like I'm beyond consolation. I've backslidden so far into old, sinful behaviors and attitudes that redemption feels hopeless.
The burden has been so heavy that, moments ago, I felt compelled to fall to my knees. I reread, for the umpteenth time, the description of love in 1 Corinthians 13, and it became painfully real to me that the way I've been has not been loving at all. I begged God for the forgiveness I knew I already have and will never deserve. But can I forgive myself?
As I write, I still wrestle with this, yet to find a peaceful resolution. To any readers, I'm sorry that this isn't a profound, feelgood, theological or spiritual post. This is a post of despair; of open recognition of my need for God's grace; of a deep longing to truly give my burdens to Christ. These are the thoughts of a human truly struggling with his humanity.
Tuesday, January 12, 2016
Darkness of Mine
I've been silent on this blog for a couple of months now, largely from a lack of inspiration or from scattered thoughts. I generally like writing, because it's helpful in anchoring the ideas that I have, providing a medium upon which I can expand and develop them. But lately it's been difficult, because not only are the ideas are all partially formed and lacking in any real consistency, but also because I haven't felt motivated. I suppose it's natural that these things result from depression.
As anyone who knows me can probably attest, I go through phases of being depressed, sometimes punctuated by brief periods of inspiration, which convince me that I can do anything to which I set my mind. Unfortunately, "brief" is all too adequate a description of those times, and soon I'm back in a state somewhere between sadness and void of feeling.
However, what frightens me about that "dark place," as I've come to call it, is not even its frequency or duration. While those aspects can be frustrating, they don't necessarily indicate infinity. That is to say, there's hope for an end to that form of suffering.
But you see, I often long for the times before I was prone to depression. I'll wish I could go back to a simpler, happier state of mind, which I theoretically inhabited earlier in life. But the truly terrifying thing about that is my uncertainty that such a time and state ever existed for me. While I do long for it, it's difficult for me to envision, and I can't seem to think of any specific instances in which I was truly "happy." To clarify, I can think of happy moments and periods of my life, but on deeper thought I'll also remember negative thoughts and feelings of inadequacy that were always present, even amidst those happy times.
I've had people imply, or even outright suggest, that this depression is just part of who I am, tied to my temperament, and that there's no cure or solution. That's a disheartening thought, especially when it comes from the mouth of a fellow Christian. The notion that I have a joy-inhibitor hardwired into my brain seems to fly in the face of the theology of a God who wants us to have abundantly joyful lives.
I have, of course, had the thought that I misunderstand what true joy is. I know it's more than just a feeling, and so it doesn't mean we'll always be happy and carefree. But my impression has always been that joy can't exist in the same space as depression; they contradict each other. So unless that's wrong and I truly don't understand, there must be hope for freedom from this. And unlike everyone else in my life (whether they actually do this or not), I can't just give up on me. I have to believe there's hope.
As anyone who knows me can probably attest, I go through phases of being depressed, sometimes punctuated by brief periods of inspiration, which convince me that I can do anything to which I set my mind. Unfortunately, "brief" is all too adequate a description of those times, and soon I'm back in a state somewhere between sadness and void of feeling.
However, what frightens me about that "dark place," as I've come to call it, is not even its frequency or duration. While those aspects can be frustrating, they don't necessarily indicate infinity. That is to say, there's hope for an end to that form of suffering.
But you see, I often long for the times before I was prone to depression. I'll wish I could go back to a simpler, happier state of mind, which I theoretically inhabited earlier in life. But the truly terrifying thing about that is my uncertainty that such a time and state ever existed for me. While I do long for it, it's difficult for me to envision, and I can't seem to think of any specific instances in which I was truly "happy." To clarify, I can think of happy moments and periods of my life, but on deeper thought I'll also remember negative thoughts and feelings of inadequacy that were always present, even amidst those happy times.
I've had people imply, or even outright suggest, that this depression is just part of who I am, tied to my temperament, and that there's no cure or solution. That's a disheartening thought, especially when it comes from the mouth of a fellow Christian. The notion that I have a joy-inhibitor hardwired into my brain seems to fly in the face of the theology of a God who wants us to have abundantly joyful lives.
I have, of course, had the thought that I misunderstand what true joy is. I know it's more than just a feeling, and so it doesn't mean we'll always be happy and carefree. But my impression has always been that joy can't exist in the same space as depression; they contradict each other. So unless that's wrong and I truly don't understand, there must be hope for freedom from this. And unlike everyone else in my life (whether they actually do this or not), I can't just give up on me. I have to believe there's hope.
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